Happy Belated Mother’s Day to my many friends who are Mothers and to everyone who ever had a Mom. I had a sweet Mother’s Day with 2 of my daughters enjoying a dinner created by my oldest daughter and enjoyed in her home. I missed seeing my own mother and our middle daughter and grandson on Mother’s Day, but I am thankful for cards that were sent and received, voices that were heard over phones and hearts that were shared. If I had my way, the ones I love – my family, would live close by allowing us to enjoy times together often with ease.
Even though my daughters are grown and are out of our home – I am still learning my role as a Mother. I am continuing to learn this role of mothering grown daughters and taking a lesser position in their lives. My daughters have grown up into very capable, mature young women who have outgrown their need of a daily dose of Mom. Lately I have been “complaining” to my husband that they actually believed us when we taught them that the Lord could take them anywhere and use them in His Kingdom work – my complaint is that they actually believed us and are living in just that manner. There are passing moments when I wish they still needed me like they use to.
Our goal as parents was never to raise our daughters to be dependent upon us. I am very proud of their many accomplishments in academics, marriages, careers, and most importantly in their response to God’s call in their lives. But I must admit that I have been taken back a bit, that I still have to learn my role as a Mother to my grown daughters. It has served to remind me that God always has me in a place of learning to trust Him with what is next – faith walking with Him throughout each day.
I have often said on this blog that Mothering is a bittersweet role – we raise our children to leave us. And my children have left and as much as I am sad that my active mothering days are over, I have so very much to be thankful for.
Recently I gave the closing MOPS devotions for this year and I reminded the Moms (and myself) of these truths…
LIVE IN THE MOMENT…
- Give yourself and your kids time to just be … every moment of every day does not have to accomplish a goal
- Enjoy each stage
YOU ARE SO LOVED BY YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER …
- Just as your kids cannot do anything to make you love them more, you cannot do anything to make God love you more
- Understanding this has helped me love others, especially my husband more.
GIVE YOURSELF AND THOSE YOU LOVE GRACE…
- Your husband, your kids are just like you – human, full of themselves, struggling with life’s issues. Be kind and gracious –
and finally – the words that I am known for in MOPS…
YOUR ARE THE PERFECT MOTHER FOR YOUR CHILDREN!
- As you teach them, they will be teaching you
So my dear daughters – thank you for continuing to teach me how to mother you as grown young women (thank you for reminding me when I have blown it) and most importantly, thank you for making me a Mom. It has been (and continues to be) one of the best experiences of my life.
The Women in my life…